What is up? How are you there? 

Today’s Love Letter is about RELATIONALITY.
It’s long, so maybe read it in small doable bits? 
And as you read, listen, sense, feel, notice – what is there for you to experience? 

Lately I’ve been receiving so many messages from all kinds of practitioners and coaches that go something like this: 

“I’ve done a lot of therapy, coaching, and healing. All the ceremonies, trainings, and modalities. I know a lot about regulating my nervous system. And yet… It seems like I’m feeling worse, more dysregulated, depleted, less alive…” 

(Note: this is a re-phrazed generic message, not based on anyone in specific. If you recognise yourself in it, it speaks to the bigness of this pattern).

And deep down, as the glue that holds all of this together, there is shame… 

“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why doesn’t this work for me? It seems to work for everyone else…” 
“I know all this theory, I should be able to apply it better.” 

First of all, I see you and I feel you! Of course, you feel like this. This makes so much sense! 

And second, in this email I’d like to share my observation around why this is happening for so many and offer you a practice to explore. 

Most of the healing spaces (unintentionally? most of the times) hold the same HYPER- and HYPO-momentums as the Culture that got us here in the first place. 

HYPER: stuck in a destination-centric paradigm, constant growth and achievement. Stuck in the high intensity. HYPO: deeply frozen inside the systems of oppression in the numbing, avoiding nuance and full range of our humanity. Which evolutionary is the easiest thing to do.

There is lack of embodied understanding of what it truly means to be a human. 

Lack of high quality education and overload of misinformation.
The same systems of exploitation and extraction that got us sick, are being applied in the healing spaces (unintentionally most of the times). 

There’s always more to heal. There’s always another trauma to resolve. There’s always more to regulate. There’s always another thing to develop in yourself. There’s always another modality to get certified in.

(Note: I am all FOR continued education. But not the kind that is rooted in exploitation, manipulation, urgency, and not-enoughness – see my previous Love Letter. This is why my Bodyverse School of Somatic Wizardryhas a continuous LIFETIME access to all live classes and all recorded content FOREVER and ever, because in the Bodyverse we don’t take part in the endless cycles of depletion.)

Do you see the pattern? 

A destination-centric paradigm. No matter how hard you try, you will never achieve it, because there’s always more to escape and always more to chase. 

So, no wonder, you feel like you feel after years in a “healing hamster wheel”… 

I don’t know how about you, but to me it feels very depleting… 

And I am here to challenge the heck out of this status quo! Wanna join me? 🧚

How about we turn to a model of wholeness, aliveness, animacy, deep embodied participatory knowledge, and to the full range of our humanity? 

A relational and animate approach to Somatics (your Body) and Life itself. 

“What does this even mean?”, – you ask

Trauma is a response pattern that is deeply intertwined with everything that being alive means. With love and grief, connection and separation, belonging and rejection, freedom and shame… 

The more we try do describe trauma, the more it sounds like Life itself.

All of it is about the relationality with the Breath of Life – the universal Life Force, the universal intention to create and maintain life, the all-pervasive resonant Energy field that is greater than any human difficulty.

And what if I said that inside of this Health is ever present?

Not the normative health your try to chase so hard, but the harmonious cooperation of all the vital force, which sustains us through life.

My wish for every practitioner is to develop the perceptual skills necessary to recognise and support the presence and the action of health in themselves and their clients.

And so now to the practice 🍯

How could you start opening up your perceptual capacity to this ever present field of Health? 

The sweet dew of humming bees.
The center of the rose.
The cotton-candy sky in the morning. 
The balanced rhythmic interchange between motion and stillness.
In your heart beat. 
In every breath cycle.
In the slow process or your cells regeneration.

Can you trust that your heart still will be beating, even as you are experiencing this difficulty? 
Can you trust that your cells still will be regenerating? 
Your bones still will be regrowing? 
The sun still will be rising and falling.
What comes up, must come down. 

The sweet dew of humming bees. 

How could you begin relating to the wind touching your skin?
How could you begin relating to the rain drops? 
To the sound of the city waking up in the morning? 
To the feeling of gravity in every step you take?
Maybe even to another human? (this is advanced stuff tho, we don’t need to include this today) 🤍

The sweet dew of humming bees. 

The forgotten art of relating ꩜

The more we find the capacity in us to relate to the Breath of Life, the wider and wilder our human experience becomes. The more we can tap in to this bigger Field of Health and the more our difficulties can begin to metabolize without us having to DO anything for it. 

Wizardry is a skill you can master, my babes.